I met this girl recently who just blows my mind. There’s so much more to her than people realize. I know everyone has different levels, but Kay has depth far beyond what you would guess initially meeting her.
The night that I found out about my best friend being taken advantage of, I had texted Kay. I was really upset and I didn’t want to be home or alone. At first, I just asked her if she wanted to hang out. She said she was in bed, but not sleeping. I told her that I kind of just needed a friend and to get out of the house. Her next text simply said that she was on her way.
We went to a restaurant and I bought her a smoothie. We laughed and joked and talked. I wasn’t going to tell her about my best friend’s personal business, but then when I found her crying I had to tell someone. I needed advice. I was so angry and I had to tell that guy something; had to let him know he wasn’t welcome around me or my friend anymore.
I told Kay everything and asked her advice. I’d like to explain the levels of Kay here, and I’m going to try, but I don’t know if I’ll do her justice.
Kay is funny; very, very funny. She and I are always laughing. We had spent the night laughing and joking. Sometimes when she talks, everything comes out backwards or mixed up somehow. It’s hilarious and we just laugh about it.
However, when we started talking about my best friend, without even skipping a beat she said everything perfectly. Her advice was spot on. She offered multiple ideas, each one beautifully spoken. My mind was blown by this new level of her which I’d never seen before.
After that came the birthday plans. Kay cancelled a date in order to spend all of her time helping me make my friend’s birthday perfect. It would have been so stressful without her. She made it fun and she calmed me down when I got stressed. She spent several days coming to my house in the morning and not leaving until late at night. I tried to repay her a bit by helping her study for a test one night.
Kay came to my house early the morning of my friend’s birthday and we decorated the whole place. She helped me blow up balloons, hang banners, write birthday messages on the windows and more. She then had to leave for a morning class. My friend loved the decorations. Kay had helped me pick out a gift, too, which my friend also loved. She helped me make a poster, which was her idea. Then she returned after her class and we all went out to eat and walked around downtown. When I got stressed because my friend seemed to be losing her good mood, Kay said and did exactly the right things and got her all excited again.
We all went to the fair, rode rides and ate greasy fair food. It was a wonderful day and night.
At some point during all this, I asked Kay why she was going above and beyond do help me with this. I asked her if she does this with all of her friends. She said she doesn’t, and that I just seem like a good person who has had a lot of bad stuff happen and she didn’t want this to be something else that went wrong for me. She said I’m trying to do something nice for my friend and we both deserve it to work out.
I didn’t even know what to say. All I could say was thank you.
I didn’t think I’d told her much about myself or my life. I think she is just somewhat intuitive and she picked up on some of it.
In addition to all of that, there are so many little things that she does for me. I don’t know if she realizes that I notice them all, but I do. She opens doors for me, chooses drinks that she knows I like when we’re sharing, gives me first choice with things, and just goes out of her way to make me feel comfortable.
I’m at Kay’s house right now because I texted her late last night. I couldn’t sleep because my neighbors were being very loud. Today is a long, hard and important day at work, and I really needed sleep. Kay came and picked me up so I could get some sleep at her house.
She always there when I need her. I realized this about her that night with my best friend. I had a talk with her about this. I wanted to let her know that I appreciate her and will never take advantage of her kindness. I told her that she can always say no if she needs to. I don’t want her putting my needs above her own. I can tell she’s the type of person to do that. I told her that I will always be here for her, too. This friendship is a two-way street.
I’m sure I’ll blog more about Kay at some point. There is so much to her. She is one person that I cannot fully figure out. This intrigues and confuses me.